What happens when a self-stimulating behavior becomes destructive?
For many neurodivergent individuals, stimming is a natural way to self-soothe and regulate the nervous system. But sometimes, these behaviors can become distressing or physically harmful. Maybe you’re pulling your hair to the point of bald spots, biting your nails until they bleed, or picking at your skin despite wanting to stop. You might feel trapped in a cycle of relief followed by shame, frustration, or embarrassment.
Common BFRBs include:
- Trichotillomania (Hair Pulling) – Pulling hair from the scalp, eyelashes, eyebrows, or body.
- Dermatillomania (Skin Picking) – Picking at scabs, acne, or skin imperfections, sometimes to the point of wounds.
- Onychophagia (Nail Biting) – Biting or chewing nails and cuticles, often leading to pain or infection.
- Lip or Cheek Biting – Repeated biting of the lips or inner cheeks, causing soreness or damage.
Many people with BFRBs have been told to “just stop,” but that approach doesn’t work—because these behaviors serve a real purpose for your nervous system. We aim to:
✅ Explore your sensory needs – so you can work with your nervous system rather than against it.
✅ Explore alternative stimming strategies – that provide the same soothing effect without harming your body.
✅ Reduce shame & self-judgment – because this is not a personal failing; it’s a coping mechanism that needs care, not punishment.
✅ Develop regulation techniques – so you feel more in control without suppressing your natural need to stim.
BFRBs are not a lack of willpower—they are a neurobiological response to stress, overwhelm, or sensory needs. Our goal is not to force you to stop but to help you find ways to care for your nervous system that feel safe and sustainable.
